Guidance for those wishing to be married at Boxley Church

Advice about your Wedding arrangements

 So, you want to be married in Church?

First of all, congratulations on your engagement to be married! This is a very special time as you begin the many preparations that will lead to your Wedding Day when, in God’s presence, you’ll make your Marriage Vows to each other in front of your family and friends
It’s much easier to be married in Church than it used to be as Church Marriage Laws have changed, creating far more openness.  But there are some legal bits and pieces that you must take into account when thinking about getting married in one of these churches. In this Benefice there are two parishes which are joined together: St Mary & All Saints Boxley and St Martin’s Detling. This gives you two churches to choose from.
Both of our Churches are beautiful. Both are ancient churches where Christian worship has been offered for over 900 years at least. Whether you choose to be married at St Mary’s Church Boxley or at St Martin’s Church Detling, you’ll be stepping into holy places: could there be a better start to your marriage?
If you currently live within the Benefice of Boxley and Detling then you have an automatic legal entitlement to be married in either of these churches. If you’re not sure about this, then please ask us, or see www.achurchnearyou.org, where you can key in your postcode to discover your local parish church.
If you live outside both of these parishes (this Benefice) then here are some important legal things that you must consider:
You have an automatic entitlement (a Qualifying Connection) to be married at either of our Churches if:
1. You were baptised in the parish
2. You are Confirmed and your Confirmation has been entered in the Confirmation Registers of our parish churches
3. You have lived in either of these parishes for at least six months
4. You have regularly attended worship in one of these churches for at least six months
5. Your parent/s lived in either of these parishes for at least six months
6. Your parent/s regularly attended worship in one of these churches for at least six months
7. Your parent or grandparent was married in one of these churches
If any of these apply to you, then you must tell us and provide documentary evidence of this.
If none of these connections apply to you it’s still possible to be married in one of these churches.
You can be married in this Benefice by attending worship regularly for a continuous period of 6 months before the date of your wedding. By regularly, we mean at least once a month. We advise you to allow far more than the minimum amount of six months for your church attendance. In this way, if anything happens that would stop you from coming to church, you’ve got plenty of time left over. If you have any difficulties in keeping up your church attendance, then you must tell us as the sooner we know about any difficulties, the sooner we are able to consider a solution. If you fail to keep up your church attendance through this period without telling us then it won’t be possible for you to be married in these churches.
We look forward to hearing from you and if you’d like to take your enquiry further then please phone Zana Dixon, Church Administrator on 01634 842508 or
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You may find visiting the Church of England Website useful